When a woman (or man) says, “Yes,” it’s a natural instinct to start Googling all wedding possibilities immediately. Before the lady or gent gets up from their one knee, there are wedding planning websites bookmarked. Whole Pinterest boards are dedicated to the big day. She’s no longer a girlfriend, she’s a bride to be and everyone is going to know it.
But let’s put the brakes on here! This is a wedding between two people, so hold your horses, lady. The groom in this equation is also having his dream wedding day, and that means that compromises must be made if you want this day to be equal, beautiful, and going off without a hitch. There are a lot of things on your to-do list, so let’s see the ones that you should be deciding together as a couple.
This is not one that you can independently choose. Sure, you may want to sway to Islands In The Stream, but he may hate Ms. Parton and all country music. The song that you have your first dance to is going to be memorable, and it is symbolic of you both as a couple. Choose this together and choose how you plan to dance to it, too. There are plenty of options for your first dance, don’t think you have just to sway together! Many people take dance lessons in the lead up to the big day so you could tango or waltz around the dance floor or even do a hip hop dance!
The Wedding Party
This is a serious conversation to have. You need to edit the families and friends to invite only those you are both comfortable with, and you need to consider their colours, too. For example, if you’re set on gold and dusty rose bridesmaid dresses, then he has to be okay with the same colour for buttonholes. It would be best if you had a serious chat about what you want and who you want there to celebrate. This is especially important if there is any fighting among the ranks!
What do you do if he wants to get married and have the reception at a hotel, but you’ve had your heart set on a destination wedding? Well, you compromise, of course! You could have the marriage abroad as an intimate ceremony, and then you could have a huge bash when you’re home in the hotel of his choice for all your friends and family. Either way, this isn’t a decision that you can make alone and then just book on a whim. This is all about compromise for both of you. If you can’t agree on these things, you need to come up with a third option that you CAN agree on!
Your honeymoon is all about you two. You have the whole world in front of you, and the honeymoon should be an equal choice. If you can’t come to a compromise, you need to decide how you are going to split the honeymoon equally. You may want to head to Jamaica for a beach break, and he may want to go to Disneyworld. Both are good!
The main thing to remember when wedding planning is that it is your love for each other that got you to this point and your love for each other can get you through anything, including your wedding planning!