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If you’re in a relationship, chances are you want it to flourish and succeed. After all, we all enjoy feeling loved and making others feel loved. If only love was that simple. It turns out that relationships are pretty complex things. It’s not always plain sailing and you may find yourself making difficult decisions or having to put real effort in to make things work. Here are a few pieces of advice that you can take into account to help your relationship to work out!
Remember What You See Online Isn’t Accurate
We tend to base our idea of how well our own relationships are doing by comparing them to other people’s relationships. Nowadays, this is easier than ever. After all, we have social media keeping us up to date with every detail of everyone’s lives, at least, that’s what many of us think. It’s important to remember that social media feeds are heavily curated and that people only tend to post the best parts of their lives online. Nobody posts their quarrels, fallouts, or arguments. So, don’t think that everyone else’s relationship is better than yours. At the end of the day, you’re seeing them through a rose-tinted lens. Instead, stop focusing on what other people are doing and focus on your own feelings about your own relationship.
Know Red Flags
You’ve probably heard the term “red flag” thrown around a lot lately. Red flags are essentially warning signs of a partner’s potential problems. Some problems can be overcome. Some might be more unacceptable and something to walk away from. Unfortunately, red flags don’t always appear early on. Sometimes, you can be deep into a relationship before you notice problems or accept and acknowledge problems. If you’re already thick into a relationship and feel you need to walk away, remember that you always can. Even if you are married there’s the option of Clean break orders in divorce.
This sounds basic, but so many relationships suffer due to a lack of communication. When something isn’t working, talk about it. If you’d rather your partner changed certain behaviour, have a discussion. If you’re worried, feel insecure, need comforting, anything. Simply talking and making sure your partner is aware of all of your feelings can help you to overcome any hurdle. If you fail to communicate with your partner, you’ll never see the changes you want to see in your relationship. You’re also more likely to bottle things up and eventually have a huge outburst with multiple things that need to be resolved. Truth be told, these issues could have been resolved individually along the way.
These are just a few ideas that may help you in your relationship. No relationship is perfect and many can work. Hopefully, some of the above advice will help you to get things on the right track!