When someone truly cares about you, they make an effort, not an excuse – unknown
Something that I often hear from people who are in relationships, is that they always feel like they are the last priority with their partner and I think that it is really sad. If you are in a committed relationship, you should always be a top priority to your partner, just as they should be your first priority too.
That is not to say that you have to be with your partner instead of friends or other interests all of the time. There is a big difference between putting your partner as a first priority rather than being a slave to them.
Examples of not regarding your partner as a first priority
- Your partner is at the hospital receiving treatment as an outpatient. You decide to leave them there alone so that you can go and get a haircut.
- You go out with friends leaving your partner at home alone, for four nights or more a week.
- Your partner has made plans with you but then you get invited out with your friends, so you tell your partner that you are going to cancel them, as you can see them any time.
- You love watching sports, however, your partner is not as enthusiastic. Despite knowing this, you decided that even though your partner is not a fan, you are still going to spend every evening watching all of your sports programs.
- You use your holiday allowance from work on holidays with your friends so you can not go away with your partner.
- If you have children, you never get up in the night when the children wake up or do the early mornings at the weekends.
In each of these examples, a person is putting other things before their partners which means that their partner is not their first priority. These examples show someone who is not thinking about their partner at all when they make decisions, which is not at all fair on the partner.
Are you guilty of doing some of these examples or does your partner treat you this way? If the answer is yes then you need to have some serious thought about how important the success of your relationship matters to each of you.
No one is always busy. It just depends on what number you are on their priority list – unknown
This post is part of the blog series: The A-Z of a Healthy and Happy Relationship