Kindness in relationships

K is for kindness: Relationship A-Z

Just imagine how different the world could be if we all spoke to everyone with respect and kindness – Holly Branson

Kindness may seem like a given when talking about the key to a healthy and happy relationship, but unfortunately, we can sometimes forget to be kind to those that are closest to us.

When a relationship is going through a hard time and you seem to be arguing more than anything else, being kind to your partner is not something that comes naturally. It can be easy to find yourself in a daily battle of digs, snipes and at times, full-on war!

man covering his mouth, feeling frustrated
Showing kindness can be hard when you are not getting along

The thought of being kind to your partner may seem like the last thing on your mind. Especially as you may wonder why you should make the effort and be kind when they are being so horrible.

Only you can make a change

The problem is, you can not make someone change. The only person that you have control over is yourself. If you change your behaviour then there is a good chance that after a short while you will start to see a change in your partner.

This is by no means easy, there have been many times where I have not managed to stay kind when going through a rough patch. However, the times that I have, it has been more than worth the extra effort. Being kind is a good way to live and treat everyone, especially the ones we love.

If you are being kind to your partner, it will be very difficult for them to stay angry and not reciprocate kindness. Offer to make a cup of tea or do a chore which is normally your partners. When you get grunted at with no sincere thanks it can be difficult to stay kind, but you need to rise above it and carry on.  Soon your partner will realise that you are making a huge effort and they will want to be kind to you too.

cup of tea
Start your kindness with the offer of a simple cup of tea

It is important that we do not take our partners for granted. We need to remember to treat them as we would also like to be treated. 


Kindness and politeness are not overrated at all. They’re underused – Tommy Lee Jones

A couple looking at the sea in each others arms and heart shaped red and pink balloonsThis post is part of my blog series: The A-Z of a healthy and happy relationship.

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