Hello and welcome to my June and July news post. I am not going to lie, it has been a pants couple of months, to be honest! There has been some good in there too, so it is not all bad, but the bad has been really bad! Please note there may be some affiliate links in this post. For more information about what this means, please click here.
Yes, even those who write about relationships can go through the wringer! The thing is, we have been together for a quarter of a century. I was only 15 years old when we went on our first date together and oh my, have we both changed over the years!
However, 25 years is a long time. We have been through so many things together and we have three beautiful daughters, a gorgeous grandson, and three handsome fur babies. We have lived in multiple homes, been homeless, enjoyed fantastic holidays together, gone through illness together, and supported each other through the darkest times.
In June we separated for what was supposed to be a trial separation of one week but only actually lasted five days. For me, it taught me that I can manage as a single parent if I have to but I really don’t want to. For all his faults I still love the bones of him and we have so many dreams and plans for the future. I do not want to lose those dreams.
So we have decided to put more work into our marriage and try and save it. It is not easy but so far, things are not too bad. We are making small changes that we can maintain and hoping that as we still have love for one another it will be enough to pull us through.
I had some exciting plans that got canceled as I was really unwell. The night before Friendsfest I said to Darren I think I’m getting a cold or something. Well, I woke up that morning and I couldn’t breathe. My nose was completely blocked, I was sneezing, wheezing, everything ached and I felt like I had been hit by a truck.
So, of course, I didn’t go to Friendsfest. I was so unwell I also missed our family trip to Chessington that we had planned as well. At one point they had an ambulance on its way but then I managed to regain control of my breathing.
They told me to take a COVID test even though I am fully vaccinated and I took it and it said that I did not have it. However, all of my symptoms matched COVID for someone who has had both vaccinations and I read that the at home tests are only 79% reliable so I don’t know. All I do know was it was horrific!
It took ten days of laying in bed and another week after that before I was fully back to ‘normal’. I was also given a blue inhaler to open up my lungs. Something that I have not been prescribed since I gave up smoking over six years ago!
Aside from my own bout of illness, Darren has been through it as well but his has been dental. He ended up having to take a whole week off work as the whole right side of his face swelled up. In his own words, he looked like the hunchback of Notre Dame! He was on two different types of anti-biotics but fingers crossed all is okay now.
So we started working on our garden in April and although it is nowhere near finished we have made some good progress. It is hard as we only have weekends to do it but then one weekend a month we have our grandson, and there has been a lot of rain as well. I am pleased with what we have done so far.
In July 2020 we started decorating the living room. It needed a major overhaul as we had not done anything to it in years. We painted the walls and did a wallpaper feature wall but still needed to replace all of the furniture. It took us a long time to save and buy the things that we wanted but one year later it is finally finished!
Sometimes it can be hard when you lack time or money or both! Especially when you see people on social media redoing a whole house in a month with all new things. It is important to remember that although it doesn’t have the same wow factor as doing it all at once, a little bit here and there still makes good in the end.
Dog show that was not really a dog show!
I had been looking forward to attending my first Pagan festival. I had been counting down the days and then ten days before the festival it was canceled due to COVID restrictions still being in place. I was really upset about this as I had been looking forward to it for so long. In an effort to cheer myself up I decided to find something else for us to go to on that date instead.
I found an event that said they had four events happening and one ticket gets you into all four. There was a dino fest, a rides fest, a kids fest, and a dogs fest. I was so excited to see the dog part as anyone who has been following me long-term will know I absolutely love attending dog events with my beautiful boys.
I brought the tickets and my sister who has an eight-month-old pup brought a ticket too. On the day we arrived in the car park and the man who was directing the cars told us there was no dog event happening. I argued with him as I said there must be as I have purchased a ticket. He was not changing his mind, so I told Darren to park up and we would investigate.
After queuing for what seemed like forever, we got to the gate and were told that yes, there is a dog fest event happening. Once inside we realised that there had been some false advertising about the event. There was one stand where you could enter your dog into some fun competitions, a cats protection stand, and a petting zoo that had farm animals.
Not at all what we had been expecting but as we were there and it was a hot sunny day, we decided to stay and make the best of it. My sister entered her pup into the under ten-month category and he won 2nd place. We entered our three boys into the most handsome prince category and Prince won 2nd place!
The magic and miracle mornings
I have been doing the magic which is a book about showing gratitude to positively influence the universe to give you what you want. The main part of the book is writing ten different things that you are grateful for every day for 28 days and then there are daily tasks to complete alongside that.
As simple as it sounds, I found it hard to keep up with as it took a bit more time than I thought it would. I managed to get to day 15 before I gave up. That was 150 different things that I am grateful for and I was struggling at that point so hats off to those who manage all 280 different things!
The results that I noticed were that one of my goals that you write at the start was to be closer with my sister. We had not seen in other in over a year and then a week into doing the magic, she texted me and asked if she could come to the dog event with us. I also found some unexpected money (£15), paid for my tattoo and it was £15 cheaper than I thought it would be and was unexpectedly given £40 from my hubby. We were also gifted a new to us car as well.
I am definitely going to give it another go at a later date as I am excited to see what would happen if I managed to actually complete it! Hopefully next time I do it I will have a bit more time and a bit less stress going on!
I also had a go at the miracle mornings where you start your day at 5 am. For the first couple of days, I was loving it. It was hard to get motivated to get up but I was loving the 5:30 am dog walks and seeing the sun starting to rise. However, towards the end of the first week, it was getting harder and harder. I felt so tired all of the time and by day seven I was on my knees. The next day was when Darren awoke with a blown-up face and tooth pain so we didn’t do it after that.
It is hard to know how much is in my head and just needs ignoring and pushing through versus how much is left over from the seven years that I had chronic fatigue syndrome. For the last week, we have been getting up at 5:45 am so that we can still walk the dogs together before Darren leaves for work. Even that feels like it is taking a toll on me, so we will have to see how it goes.
The end of year eight home school
Another school year of home school is completed. It is definitely getting harder now that she is older! She is asking about coding for year nine, something that I know absolutely nothing about! It is also harder to think of topics that we can do as she is at that age where she seems disinterested in most things. I will have to get my thinking cap on over the summer break to see what we can do for year nine!
That is pretty much all of my news from the last two months. I will leave you with some more pics! If you have enjoyed this post, then I would love to hear from you in the comments or on social media.