Q is for Quotidian: Relationship A-Z

Do what you did in the beginning of a relationship and there won’t be an end – Unknown

The definition of the word Quotidian is ‘occurring every day’. In a good and happy relationship, there are a number of little things which should occur every day to keep the relationship strong and happy, so this seemed a good fit for the letter Q.

  • Affection

Showing your partner that you care is so important and easily achieved in small simple ways in your daily life. Telling your partner that you love them, a kiss on the cheek, even a rub on the arm can make all of the difference. I know that some couples are not overly keen on displaying affection, but there are so many different ways, there is bound to be some that fit with your relationship style. Both Darren and I are naturally very affectionate and not a day goes by that we do not tell each other that we love each other several times. We always have at least one hug and kiss a day too, no matter how busy life gets. These simple displays of affection let each other know that we are loved and keep the spark in our hearts.

man hugging woman with flower crown
Affection is important
  • Teamwork

Working together as a team on a daily bases is a great way to strengthen your relationship. Knowing that you are both on the same page in terms of shared goals is essential, but even more importantly than that, helping each other complete daily chores so that you both get some downtime is a must. If you have a family, it also sends a great message to the children, as no matter how young or old they are, if they are a part of the family then they should be doing at least one thing each day to help out and keep the home running smoothly. After all, teamwork makes the dream work!

  • Talking

Communicating with each other is so important. Telling each other about your day and really listening and showing interest is so beneficial to a good relationship.  Some people get stuck in a rut where they barely speak to each other and act like two ships passing in the night. Other couples only talk about problems, their debts, bills the kids. You need to talk to each other every day and really listen to what each other has to say. 

man and woman talking at the balcony
Communication is key!
  • Trust

If a relationship does not have trust then it has nothing at all. Trust is so important and will be covered more fully with the letter T. In short, you both need to trust each other every day. A healthy and happy relationship has no room for suspicion or mistrust. You both need to feel secure in your relationship and know in your heart that you are there for each other.

  • Kindness

Couple holding hands - in love. Forrest in the background
Be kind every day

Showing kindness to each other every day is the final of the five. You need to be kind to yourselves and each other. Treat each other as you would like to be treated, you are in love, so show each other that love every day.

If you both manage to keep these five small things in your daily life, then you are well on your way to having a fantastic, long-lasting relationship.

If the feelings are mutual, the effort will be equal – Unknown

Do you agree or have I left something off the list? I would love to hear your thoughts.

A couple looking at the sea in each others arms and heart shaped red and pink balloonsThis post was part of the blog series – The A-Z of a Healthy and Happy Relationship.

 

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