Thinking About Divorce When You Have Children

.If you’re a parent and thinking about divorce, you will probably wonder what age is going to be best for the kids. There is most definitely not a magic number when it comes to defining the right age for kids. Although age is a valid consideration, there is no age that makes them more resilient. There are still other factors that should be considered too. 

Have a look below at some of the factor you should be keeping in mind when thinking about divorce and children are involved: 

Attachment

You need to think about how attached your children are to each parent. Children who are attached to both parents in a strong way may have a more difficult time when it comes to divorce. They feel compelled to show loyalty to both of you. Therefore, it can be hard on them trying to please both sides. Plus, it’s important to make sure that children have the same connection they enjoyed with each parent before. This means that the need for family solicitors is often needed when an arrangement can’t be agreed upon. You should be going through divorce expecting to have joint and equal custody. 

Couple Kissing Baby While Carry baby attachment to both parents

Other Losses

You should consider any other emotional baggage your children may have recently gone through. Maybe they have lost a loved one (even a pet), moved home or changed schools. Divorcing at this point may have more of an effect as they are already dealing with an array of emotions. 

Think About What They Witness At Home

Have a really close look at how much conflict the kids see when you’re in the marital home. Are you and your partner continually bickering and arguing in front of them? If so then maybe it is time to call it quits. No matter what the age of the children, seeing conflict in the home can have a more detrimental effect on them than a break down in a relationship. Bear in mind though, that just because there may be a lot of conflicts seen in the home, it won’t necessarily make the divorce any easier on them. Children can be left wondering why their parents couldn’t just work it out

Finances

Ok, so money is not a reason to stay together, however careful considerations should be made over the economic stability for you as a separated couple both in the short and long-term. You should consider your abilities to pay for necessities such as a home to live, food, and clothing. You may also want to consider any extracurricular activities they’ve become accustomed too. Along with any costs that are going to be related to school in the near future. If you can it’s a good idea to sit down together and work out a financial plan for raising your children. 

Certificate of Divorce Paper Beside Black Ballpoint Pen

When you come to reflect on how a divorce will affect your children, you could consider some marriage counselling as an option too. A professional can help you to come to the best decision to move forward with. Do you have any advice that you can share in the comments section below? 

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