X is for X-rated! : Relationship A-Z

“Sex is more than an act of pleasure, it’s the ability to be able to feel so close to a person, so connected, so comfortable that it’s almost breathtaking to the point you feel you can’t take it. And at this moment you’re a part of them” – Thom Yorke. We are nearing the end of this series now. So, of course, sex does have to come into the equation, or at the very least, intimacy. In my opinion, a[Read more]

W is for Want: Relationship A-Z

Two hands making a heart shape by connecting their thumb and fingers together

Good relationships don’t just happen; they take time, patience and two people who truly want to work to be together – Unknown. It may sound obvious but both people need to want to make the relationship work and both need to be willing to put the effort in to make it a success. It can not all be on one person. Sometimes one of the people may not even realise that their heart is no longer in the relationship as[Read more]

V is for Valuing

Two fingers together with drawn on faces to look like two people sharing one heart

Respect peoples feelings. Even if it does not mean anything to you, it could mean everything to someone – Unknown. What are values? Values can also be described as internal beliefs. We develop them as we grow, first from our parents and then from our friends and wider society. They are not set in stone so they can be changed or swayed. Often we do not even realise what our values are. They lie below the surface guiding us in[Read more]

U is for Understanding: Relationship A-Z

A couple in each others arms holding love heart balloons in the middle of the street with houses either side

“Affection is when you see someone’s strengths; love is when you accept someone’s flaws.” – One Day  When you are in a long term relationship a little understanding can go a long way. No one is perfect so the key is understanding someone’s flaws but loving them anyway. Darren and I have been together over 23 years and along the way I have discovered a few things which really annoy me as I am sure he has with me!  We all[Read more]

T is for Trust: Relationship A-Z

The word trust written in the sand.

A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won’t go anywhere. Trust To me, trust is the most important part of a relationship and if you do not have trust then you do not have a relationship. Trust is linked to so many of the different topics which we have already covered in this series. So, if there is no trust then it is unlikely that there will[Read more]

S is for Support: Relationship A-Z

Man and woman embracing outside

A good relationship is when someone accepts your past, supports your present and encourages your future – Unknown Do we need support? Support is something that you should always be able to rely on from your partner. They too should be able to know without a doubt that they have your support too. I have seen a lot of couples who undermine each other rather than offer support and that is so sad. Your partner should be your biggest supporter[Read more]

R is for romance: Relationship A-Z

Pink bouquet of flowers on a table next to a cup of coffee

You may hold my hand for a while, but you hold my heart forever – Unknown Romance comes in many different forms depending on the individual, so it is not important which way one expresses romance, but it is important that romance exists in the relationship! The beginning of the relationship is often where the most romance occurs, as you both want to impress each other and feelings are running high. As a relationship progresses and time passes by, romance[Read more]

Q is for Quotidian: Relationship A-Z

A calendar to illustrate occurring every day

Do what you did in the beginning of a relationship and there won’t be an end – Unknown The definition of the word Quotidian is ‘occurring every day’. In a good and happy relationship, there are a number of little things which should occur every day to keep the relationship strong and happy, so this seemed a good fit for the letter Q. Affection Showing your partner that you care is so important and easily achieved in small simple ways[Read more]

P is for Priority: Relationship A-Z

Marking off a checklist to indicate priorities

When someone truly cares about you, they make an effort, not an excuse – unknown Something that I often hear from people who are in relationships, is that they always feel like they are the last priority with their partner and I think that it is really sad. If you are in a committed relationship, you should always be a top priority to your partner, just as they should be your first priority too. That is not to say that[Read more]

O is for Originality: A-Z Relationships

Originality. Girl wearing checked shirt laying on her back holding sunglasses

A true relationship is two unperfect people refusing to give up on each other – Unknown. Originality Okay, so I might be reaching a little with the word originality, but it was very difficult to think of an O word! However, the definition of originality is the ability to think independently and creatively and I think that both of these qualities are needed in a good relationship.  Independent thinking Some couples lose their ability to think independently once they have[Read more]